Let’s start by addressing the really obvious but crucial – being single on Valentine’s Day is very much not a huge deal. Just like it is to be single on any other day of the year. And, to be honest, we’re not entirely sure how or why we’ve ever been trained to believe it is?
Singleness is not indicative of your attractiveness, worth as a person, or any other quality that Bolly rom-coms, or the Valentine’s Day Industrial Complex from Hallmark that we think of.
All of us have waited for the “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai” syndrome. Hum ek baar jeete hai, ek baar marte hai, shaadi bhi ek baar hoti hai … aur pyar ek baar hi hota hai – and well most of us are still waiting for that one time love!
There’s really nothing strange about not having a partner, whether you’re single out of choice (hey, yeah, that is a real and acceptable choice that individuals make), healing from a breakup, or in an uncertain relationship.
And why must Valentine’s be seen only through the same lens. It’s about time we normalized –
- spending time with oneself
- cutting off people/relationships that drag you down
- finding a Valentine’s day partner other than a BF/GF
- embracing our true self
Platonic Intimacy >>>> Romantic Intimacy
As a single person, Valentine’s might be worthwhile to reevaluate which relationships we favour over others. Our family, society, and the romcom industry as a whole have all constantly emphasised the importance of finding and retaining a romantic partner above all other relationships.
What about platonic love? Just holding hands, letting someone – on your shoulder for a while and comforting with a snuggle, love between friends, these are all signs of love.
Platonic relationships that are based on love, trust, and vulnerability are just as valuable as romantic ones, and we should value them as much as romantic ones.
So spend this Valentine’s with your parents, friends or work colleagues, who cares. Celebrate your valentine’s, your way.
Self-Love >>>> Selfless Love
We’ve been socialized to think that only adversity can lead to success. Yes, difficulties help us grow and provide a variety of life-altering views, but it is incorrect and deceptive to claim that only the most difficult pathways will get us to our real love. Finding contentment in a ruthless relationship is not good for anyone.
Don’t strain yourself to celebrate Valentine’s with a difficult partner. Please don’t take a toll on your mental health.
Wait for the Moment >>>> Swipe through the Screen
If we don’t want excessive perfection from our friends and accept them for who they are, why should we demand it of potential partners?
It’s strange how much pressure we put on ourselves to find the ideal spouse. We constantly seek perfection in others, which is unfair to both the other person and us. It’s unreal and can occasionally affect our mental health.
The idea is that love always will be about accepting the other person for who they are rather. Not for what we would like them to be. So, just wait and strike when the iron’s hot.
In the end, for our savage queens and kings, surviving Valentine’s day week should be no big deal. Just stay indoors and be a homebody, that’s the best option on Valentine’s Day. Be your usual self, and have a normal day. Because there are times when pretending that this holiday doesn’t exist is the best thing you can do for yourself to prevent feeling depressed. Next year is always an option!
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